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In life, some things are caught whiles others are taught. What makes life beautiful is learning from our mistakes and improving on them to make life better tomorrow.

Godly advice is very important to everyone (Irrespective of your status in life).Where you are or going, someone has been there or still there. The deadly way that killed others, only few were saved from that so that they can use it as an advice to guide others. A child can learn how to walk faster when an lean on a support.

As young man/woman, you should allowed yourself to be taught, trained and counselled by Godly men and women with experience and godly wisdom. Counseling from such people can save you from mistakes others made in the past. It will give you a peace of mind from going through lifetime regret or even death.

Dear one, do not reject Godly counseling from your church leaders, parents, friends and even people you may not know much about, in order to save from marrying the wrong person, choosing a wrong career, investing in a wrong area and others. You need to be guided because the present should be better than the formal, what will take you 10 years to achieve, experience and guidance can help you achieve them within a shorter possible time.

Where no counsel [is], the people fall: but in the multitude of counsellors [there is] safety.
Proverbs 11:14 (KJV)

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Afful Raymond
25/09/2023

Sometimes it’s better to move on than to hold on to a person who doesn’t understand you Sometimes your absence will teach what your presence cannot…Hey you, Stop breaking your own heart by trying to make a relationship work that clearly isn’t meant to work. You can’t force
someone to care about you. You can’t force someone to be loyal. You can’t force someone to be the person you need them to be.

I’ll be real with you, sometimes the person you want most is the person you’re best without. You have got to understand some things are meant to happen, but just not meant to be. Some things are meant to come in your life, just not meant to stay. Don’t lose yourself by trying to fix what’s meant to stay broken.

You can’t get the relationship you need from someone who’s not ready to give it you. And I know it’s hard when your heart has labeled that person as someone you could spend forever with. but you just have to accept that they’re not that person anymore.

And you might not understand WHY NOW, but I promise you your future will always bring understanding of why things didn’t work out. TRUST ME It is better to be alone and be happy than to be in a miserable relationship.

Whoever sees you as an option doesn’t deserve to be a priority in your life, you call him/her honey but they treat you like a monkey, he is your everything but you are nothing to him, you are doing everything to make it work, but he keeps thinking you are desperate and turns all your efforts to weakness…
Never keep awake thinking about someone who is deeply sleeping with someone else. Never stay a minute thinking about someone who cant spend a second thinking about you. Leave that person who takes your love for granted and doesn’t love you back the way you do,Love should be balanced not based one side. Its better to be single than being in an ugly relationship that will make you cry forever.

Always remember you are God’s beloved and very precious. The one that God will bring your way as a future spouse will truly value, respect and love you.

Don’t let anyone look down upon you or beg him or her to marry if ain’t willing.

Before you marry, you should take time to reflect on the following:

Are you ready?: You need to ask yourself if you are really ready for the highs and lows that come with being married.

Are you emotionally ready? Are you ready career-wise?

What about your God-given purpose? Have you pursued it far enough to need a help-meet?

How far have you gone with your personal life goals?

Can you take on the challenges that come with marriage alongside the goals you have for the nearest future? You need to be sincere with yourself, by evaluating where you are in your life and reflecting on whether or not marriage will be of benefit to you at this time.

Are you compatible?: This individual you are considering marriage with, do your values align? Do you share the same faith and belief?

Do you share similar communication styles?

Are your long-term goals too far apart?

Do you complement each other in any area?

How fast and how effectively do you resolve conflicts?

Are you both able to have open and honest communications with each other without resulting in verbal abuse?

You need to find sincere answers to these questions and more. You need to explore with your partner your religious belief system, your thoughts about family, your financial orientation as well as your personal ethics. There are some areas that must be aligned to foster a strong foundation for a blissful future together.

Are you both teachable?: Marriage is basically an institution of learning. Both of you have a lot to learn before and even in the marriage, so it is important that both of you are teachable.

Marriage requires commitment and effort from both partners. Are you willing and ready to not just learn but to put to use good knowledge on the subject of Marriage?

You need to reflect on your commitment to nurturing and growing the relationship, as well as your partner’s willingness to do the same. Take time apart to discuss your expectations for the level of dedication and investment you both are willing to make to make the relationship work.

Pre-marital Counseling: No matter how learned you think you are, do not joke with pre-marital counseling. You may consider the marital counseling team of your local church too ‘old school’ but God can use them to point to you a major issue that could steal the joy of your marriage. You can in addition, submit to counseling under spiritual couples. You can also trust God to lead you to Christian pre-marital education programs.

Get Knowledge: Search the scriptures for ancient principles for marriage. Read Marriage books by scriptural and spiritual authors. Listen to Scriptural Marriage sermons. The Holy Spirit through these resources can provide valuable guidance for you on the marriage journey and equip you with skills and tools to build a strong foundation for your marriage.

Don’t forget that the decision to marry is a significant one, and you don’t just want to marry, you want to have a blissful home. Therefore, do not be in a rush, take your time to prepare to have the best marriage.

May the Lord prepare you Himself in Jesus’ name. Amen.

1. Godliness
A real woman is a woman who has accepted Jesus as Lord and Saviour and submits under His authority. A real woman is a child of God. She’s godly and righteous.

A real woman is the real slay queen, one that slays in godliness, modesty, and appropriateness, not the one that exposes her nakedness.

2. Submissive
A real woman is a submissive woman. She submits to her husband, as the Bible commanded, without compulsion. She willingly submits under the authority of her husband.

A real woman doesn’t compete for authority, leadership, and rulership with her husband. He allows him to take the lead while she follows.

3. Respectful
A real woman is respectful. She respects her man whether or not he has money. She doesn’t disregard or disrespect her man.

A real woman doesn’t insult her man. She respects her man’s decisions, opinions, and feelings.

4. Helpful
A real woman recognizes that her number one mission in a man’s life is to help him. A real woman is not a liability or a parasite but an asset, a helpful person. She helps her man in whatever capacity she can.

5. Supportive
A real woman is a supportive woman. She’s not only a consumer but a contributor. She supports her man spiritually, financially, intellectually, and otherwise.

6. Prayerful
A real woman is a prayer warrior. She prays for her man and family. She slays in prayer. And God answers women’s prayers more because they always pray heartfelt prayers.

7. Love
A real woman is a lover girl. She loves at a deeper level. Her second nature is love and affection. She showers her man with love and affection.

8. Virtuous
A real woman is a virtuous woman. She has a good character worth emulating. To a real woman, her character is her beauty.

9. Faithfulness
A real woman is a faithful woman. She doesn’t sleep around. She’s not promiscuous. She doesn’t open her legs here and there.

She maintains and keeps herself and her marital vows. She stays faithful to one man. She doesn’t have a backup boyfriend and sugar daddy.

10. Domesticated
A real woman is domesticated. She knows how to run a home. She’s a home builder. She knows how to turn a house into a living home. She knows to make everyone feel at home.

A real woman knows how to spoil her man with delicacies. She knows how to make her man and house look neat.

11. Compassionate
A real woman is compassionate. She cares about her man. She’s considerate. She feels the pain of her man.

12. Industrious
A real woman is an industrious woman. She’s hardworking. She’s not the lazy type. She doesn’t sit all day long fixing long nails, eyelashes and paints her eyes and co. She finds work for her hand.

13. Modest
A real woman doesn’t expose her nakedness. She doesn’t expose her breasts, nudes, hip, lap, and co.

A real woman covers her body properly well. She slays in modesty, gorgeousness, and awesomeness. She doesn’t have to expose anything to attract a man.

14. Foresight
A real woman has foresight. She doesn’t think about here and now only but also about the future. She can anticipate needs and work towards solving the need.

15. Romantic
A real woman is a romantic babe. She doesn’t hide her feelings. She doesn’t form a hard or strong woman. She plays, jokes, laughs and jolly with her husband.

16. Multiplier
A real woman is not a squander but a multiplier. Give her sperm, she will give you a baby or babies. Give her a thousand and she can give you millions.

17. Care Giver
A real woman is a caregiver. She cares. She is considerate and feels concerned about her man.

18. Humble
A real woman is a humble woman. She is not prideful. She humbles herself before her man despite her qualifications, status, and caliber in life.

19. Disciplined
A real woman is a disciplined woman. She’s financially and sexually disciplined. She can control her sexual urge and manage her finances well.

20. Sacrifice
A real woman is a selfless and sacrificial woman. She inconveniences herself for the sake of her man and others. She can go hungry for others.

A real woman is of inestimable worth. Are you a real woman? Be a real woman. Do you have a real woman in your life as a man, value and cherish her.

May God make you a real woman for your husband and family.

A flamboyant wedding or marriage ceremony is not guarantee for a successful marriage.

Wedding or Marriage ceremony is not the marriage itself…it is only an event that ushers you into the marriage.

A loan for a luxurious wedding only adds to marital tension. THEREFORE PLAN a wedding you can afford…

Also, pls don’t plan and prepare for only the wedding, plan and prepare for the marriage itself too. The two are different.

God bless you.

*Happy Sunday*

Papajet

Women take sex to their hearts. Men don’t. Most men have sex for fun with no heart connection and move to the next honey pot. But a woman feels like all her life revolves around a man after sex.

This is about our primal sexual wiring and how we respond to our sexual triggers.

Part of what a lady regrets after a relationship breaks up is surrendering her body cheaply to a man. Ask some ladies who have been there.

Deep down, the sex may have been so sweet but to a lady, it feels like her power has been taken away from her.

Some guys after having sex with a lady feel that they have CONQUERED her and can subtly or openly turn any slightest issue into insults and ghosting because they have eaten the food that they have been chasing for long.

Only a man who is committed to settling down with a lady will make the mistake of having sex with a lady and commit to loving her after the act.

When I said that your punani is your bargaining power I mean to say that you have nothing to lose when he decides to end the relationship. He will always respect you for not yielding so easily like other ladies. He will trust you. You will have the power to say your mind without being blinded by your sexual experience with him. Ladies who keep their bodies in a relationship have more power than those who don’t.

Forget what they are telling you, men respect women who respect their bodies. How you give out your body creates distrust in a man’s heart and can lead to him suspecting your moves.

Anyone arguing this has never been there. These are realities, not rhetoric.

When a man genuinely loves a lady, he respects her sexual boundaries. When he doesn’t, he makes his love revolve around getting the sex he wants or ending the relationship.

How a man responds to the issue of sex exposes his relationship priority.

Some ladies don’t have issues with having sex with their man in a relationship but, every woman wants to be sure the man is her Mr. Right and that he loves her genuinely.

By Pastor Nick

SALT has no need to look like other Ingredients, sends out no Aroma like other Seasonings, but without it the Soup is Tasteless.

Men of True Impact don’t Fight for Position, Visibility or Appearance. Their Results Speak for them not their Propaganda.

You don’t need to Shout to be heard, People keep quiet to listen to Intelligent People. Salt Maintains its Integrity Amidst Pollution.

Have you seen where a Salt buyer demands to taste it before buying
because Salt has proved its Integrity over the Ages.

If you will need to Swear before People can believe you, you lack Integrity. Is your Life like Salt to the Earth or an Insult?

The Easiest and only way Salt can lose its Taste is when it mixes with too much of anything. So Watch your Associations with people without noble values.. Salt is very precious and should not be wasted.. Stay Pure !!

Stop wasting your life dear, stop wasting your life with women. What are you looking for? Settle down with one and invest in your relationship. Stop destroying your marriage with multiple women. At the end of the day, you’ll just squander your money and strength, and you may finally return home sick or dead.Side Chick, stop wasting your life with other people’s husbands.
Why beg for what you can earn?Why sharing a husband when you can have your own?Why reduce yourself to an escort material to be used and dumped at one’s leisure?Stop wasting yourself in alcohol. Drunkenness steals your sobriety and precious time that you could have spent with family or improving yourself. Refuse to be controlled by alcohol. No matter you sad you will be, drinking does not end it.Also create a culture of going out with your partner – your partner may be the only one who may never take advantage of you.Most people stay close to you so long as you have money.
Stop wasting your life wishing how things could have been.Don’t allow your past mistakes sabotage your present and abort your destiny. Purpose never, ever, to blame anyone for your life. Take full responsibility for your life. Never complain. Complaining hurts you more. Winners don’t complain, they focus on solutions for every problem they encounter.And don’t try short cuts to the top. This get-rich-quick mentality will lure you into betting and fake investment schemes. Anyone who promises you quick money and overnight success is a conman.The road to the top is long and tedious. Don’t focus on success. Pursue the purpose for which God made you and all these other things will follow you.

I Just replied a daughter’s message about her confusion of who to marry and thought to share it with you. I trust it will bless someone else too.

Please note that who you marry determines a whole lot about the outcome of your life at the long run. It is well with you. I mean your marriage is your life and your destiny. There are alot of human and women out there but not all are to be married to as a child of God.

No one should choose a husband for you. However, use these guides:

1. Is he God-fearing?
2. Do you have complimentary visions? Are you headed the same direction?
3. Does he lie to you?
4. Does he respect you?
5. Does he respect your wishes?
6. Does he encourages you and strive to bring out the best in you, or is he intimidated by your success?
7. Is he obedient to God?
8. Does he love and respect his/her mum? If he doesn’t respect his mum, from where will he manufacture respect for you or for your parents and family?
9. Will he wait for you when you cannot be there for him?
   Does he have self-control or wants to sleep with you before marriage? If he cannot wait for you to get married first, don’t be surprised if he doesn’t wait for you when you travel or when you put to bed and cannot be there with him.
10. Finally, let me stop with this one. Is he eternity conscious? We are only sojourners in this world. Our destination is Heaven. Never allow into your life, anybody that will cause you to miss your eternal destination—Heaven.

If you take time and truly answer these questions and not make excuses for anyone, you will marry the right man or woman and live a profitable life both here on earth and eternity.

You shall not make marital mistake in Jesus Name. And if you have already made the mistake, I decree grace, wisdom and Divine intervention in Jesus name Amen.

Being with the right partner makes a relationship wonderful; a relationship is more beautiful, easier and less complicated when with the right partner.

When your heart settles that you are in the right relationship, there are certain ways you tend to feel:

1. AT EASE

You feel at ease when with the right partner; that is to say you are comfortable and your heart is at peace. There’s that sense of peace and easiness that you are where you ought to be.

2. YOU FEEL UNDERSTOOD

Being with the right partner makes you feel understood. Understanding is one important area where many relationships struggle, but when with right partner, you have that sense of understanding; you are both on the same page and you just find it easier to communicate with each other.

3. YOU FEEL LOVED

This is a given; you will definitely feel loved when with the right partner. The right partner will treat you right, be committed to you and show you love and care.

4. YOU FEEL IMPORTANT

The right partner will make you feel valued and cherished, and this will give you a sense of importance. When with the right partner, you don’t have to fight for value and attention, you just know deep within you that you are truly loved, and it’ll only take the right person to love you truly.

5. YOU FEEL HAPPY, CONTENTED AND SATISFIED

You’d feel happy when you are with the right partner. There will be a feeling of contentment, happiness and satisfaction. The feeling of satisfaction and contentment isn’t something that you’ll find with every relationship you enter.

6. YOU FEEL AT HOME

When with the right partner, you feel at home; you don’t have to pretend to be who/what you are not. You are your original self with the right partner.

7. THERE’S A SENSE OF COMMITMENT

There’s a deep sense of commitment when you are with the right partner and in the right relationship. You both know where you are going and you’d both work towards it.

These are some of the signs a man shows when he doesn’t love you anymore.

1. HE STOPS COMMUNICATING

When a man doesn’t love his woman anymore, he no longer sees the need to communicate with her; communication becomes a burden to him. He talks less to her, he doesn’t communicate his feelings or things that are going on in his life anymore and he doesn’t even listen to her anymore. When his communication level drops to this extent, then that’s a sign that he isn’t in love anymore.

2. HE STOPS DOING THINGS FOR YOU

When a man is in love with his woman, he does things to make her happy, he tries to impress her and he does things to make her comfortable and love him the more. However, when a man stops loving a woman, all these things become forgone.

3. HE STOPS HAVING YOUR TIME

When a man no longer loves a lady, he stops having time for her; he would rather spend time with his friends or do other things rather than be with his lady. All those fun times and special moments would fizzle away when a man stops loving a woman.

4. HE BECOMES EASILY IRRITATED

A man who has stopped loving his woman would easily become irritated at any little thing she does. The reason behind this is the lack of love; love is tolerating, so a man in love would easily tolerate his lady. However, a man who no longer loves his lady would lose the tolerant nature he once had towards her.

5. HE BECOMES ANGRY FOR LITTLE OR NO REASON

When his tolerance level for his lady drops, this could make him easily lose his cool at the slightest instance; he would shout at her and get angry at her for even a little thing that shouldn’t really make him angry.

6. HE WOULD TRY TO SHUT HER OUT OF HIS LIFE

A man in love with his woman would let her into his world; his life would be like an open book and he wouldn’t hide stuffs from her. However, the same cannot be said about a man who doesn’t love a woman; he would shut her out of his life gradually till it reaches a point where she wouldn’t understand him anymore and can’t reach out to him.

7. PHYSICAL INTIMACY DROPS

Of course, physical intimacy would only be there when he has feelings and affections for you. But once he stops loving you, the kisses, hugs and cuddling and every other form of intimacy would disappear into thin air.

8. HE DOESN’T TAKE PART IN YOUR WORLD ANYMORE

When a man stops loving you, he wouldn’t want to share in your world anymore. He wouldn’t share in your happiness and wouldn’t share in your sadness anymore. He doesn’t feel excited in your world anymore and wouldn’t want a part of it either.

9. HE STOPS SAYING AND SHOWING HE LOVES YOU

When a man stops loving you, the three magic words “I love you” fades out with his love. Also, he would stop showing you that he loves you; he doesn’t say it and he doesn’t show it — he becomes cold towards you.

10. HE STOPS BEING CARING

Of course, this goes in line with the previous tip. A man who has stopped loving you would no longer care about you; he wouldn’t treat you like a woman, he wouldn’t make you feel special, he wouldn’t spend quality time with you and his romantic side would also fizzle out.

When a man stops loving a woman, he let these ten signs out and he becomes a shadow of the man you once knew.

Don’t be tempted to think that all your problems in this world will be solved when you marry(even when you marry the right person).

Until you learn to solve your own ‘problems’, marriage will just be too big a “problem” for you to solve.

Don’t waste all your single days because you are waiting for Marriage. Make each count count….grow, learn, work on character, put your gifts to work effectively… and when marriage comes you will be ready for it

An unfulfilled single may never be fulfilled in marriage as well
❤

If you want your relationship to thrive, there are certain attitudes you should be on the lookout for.

Check them out below

1. You kill your relationship when your partner isn’t your priority.
2. You kill your relationship when you fail to forgive your partner when he/she wrongs you, especially when they apologize.
3. You kill your relationship when you repeatedly choose your friends over your partner. Your partner should come first most of the times.
4. You kill your relationship when you don’t take time to connect and communicate with your partner regularly.
5. You kill your relationship when you expect your partner to read your mind and know what you want or what’s bothering you instead of communication same in very clear terms
6. You kill your relationship when you choose to always criticize your partner harshly.
7. You kill your relationship when you have unrealistic expectations on your partner. Your partner will feel crushed under the weight of your unrealistic expectations.
8. You kill your relationship when you always seek to control your partner. Being a control freak isn’t good for any relationship.
9. You kill your relationship when you choose to hide the truth from your partner. A relationship riddled with dishonesty is doomed to fail.
10. You kill your relationship when you always seek for who to blame. You can’t solve a problem when you fail to take responsibility for the role you played and instead look for who to blame.
11. You kill your relationship when you constantly nag. Nagging is the downfall of so many relationships.
12. You kill your relationship when you spend so much time on your phone and neglect your partner especially when you are together.
13. You kill your relationship when you let jealousy control you. Too much Jealousy isn’t healthy and it’s a relationship killer.
14. You kill your relationship when you are jobless and choose to live off your partner. Nothing kills a relationship faster than a partner who chooses not to do anything to better his/her situation.
15. You kill your relationship when you hate your partner’s friends and/or family. Your relationship is on a ticking time bomb when you do this. How can you love someone but hate those he /she loves.
16. You kill your relationship when you choose to define your partner by your partner’s past rather than who your partner is in the present.
17. You kill your relationship when you unnecessarily compare your partner with an ex or the partner of a friend. Every is unique so you must understand that.
18. You kill your relationship when you are always too busy to spend time with your partner. You teach your partner to live without you when you are always too busy to spend time with your partner.

Are you a BEAUTIFUL lady or
a BeautiFOOL lady?

Dear lady, your true beauty is in your ESSENCE, SUBSTANCE, not your APPEARANCE.

BEING GOOD is sexier than LOOKING GOOD. You can look world-class in your appearance but have a worldly attitude. It’s possible to wear an expensive Peruvian hair on an empty head. It’s possible to wear a designer perfume but your character smells like rotten tomatoes 🍅.

A BeautiFOOL lady will search through Instagram all day looking for a body cream that will make her skin to GLOW but can never search through the Bible to find insights that will make her SPIRIT to GROW.

A BeautiFOOL lady values her MAKEUP more than her MAKER. Always serious about watching her weight but finds it very difficult to lay aside the WEIGHT that weighs her spiritual life down.

To you, my dear BeautiFOOL lady, Please 🙏,

The world wants to see your BRAin, not your BRA. Instead of working on enlarging your BREAST, why not work on enlarging your HEART? Instead of buying all the cream in the market in order to remove stretch marks, why not buy books that can erase the mental and emotional marks and masks you are carrying about?

True beauty is WHO YOU ARE on the inside, not how you look on the outside.

This is how the Bible puts it in 1 Peter 3:3-4 (TLB), “Don’t be concerned about the outward beauty that depends on jewelry, or beautiful clothes, or hair arrangement. Be beautiful inside, in your hearts, with the lasting charm of a gentle and quiet spirit that is so precious to God.”

Real beauty is not in your body assets but your character assets. Don’t allow your AESTHETIC of fashion and COSMETIC lifestyle to make you lose your AUTHENTIC self.

Invest in your spiritual, mental and moral makeover. It’s good to MAKE UP your FACE but it’s more BEAUTIFUL and BRILLIANT to MAKE UP for MIND.

If what you do, year in, year out, is to post SUGGESTIVE SELFIES on social media, spend heavily on beauty spa, etc, it may increase your social status but it cannot change your soul’s status. Facebook doesn’t ask you to post what’s on your body. What they ask you is, WHAT’S ON YOUR MIND?

Beautify your MIND before beautifying your body. Work on your character. Refuse to be a beautiful husband snatcher, a beautiful liar, a beautiful insta-runs girl, or a beautiful woman with an ugly lifestyle. Don’t let people say about you, she is beautiful but she is deadly, she is sexy but has got no sense of direction.

What makes your BEAUTY a FOOLISH one is your VALUE – SYSTEM. The things you Value the most determines the VALUE of your life. If you value money more than integrity, you are not worth more than a Ghana note.

DON’T EVER FORGET THAT BEAUTY DOESN’T LAST. Proverbs 31:30 tells us that “Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last, but a woman who fears the LORD will be greatly praised.”

Don’t be a BeautiFOOL lady

“If you are not faithful in your relationship or during the period of dating, you won’t be faithful when you get married. You don’t change just because you got married. The ring on your finger doesn’t metaphor you into a different creature because you married”

Change only comes when one admits the need for change and is willing to COMMIT to doing the things that ought to be done to enable the expected change to happen.

So just because you got married doesn’t automatically end the redflags you saw in the relationships.

Please let him or her commit to change during the relationship if there is an attitude/behaviour of him or her that is of great worry to you.

A word to a wise is enough

●Fornication is not a norm. Even if it has become so so common, it is a great sin to God and a disservice to your body.

●Exposing sensitive parts of your body as a lady or dressing recklessly is not a big girl thing. It is foolishness and a sin in the sight of God. Wearing of mad people clothes is not called fashion. It is called indecency and it grieves God.

●Virginity is not a sign of weakness or even sexual malfunction. It is a sign of purity – something to be proud of that you have not been desecrated by the unworthy and filthy. No one should make them feel foolish because of being a virgin.

● That VIRGINITY is a wedding present to your husband not a birthday present to boyfriends. Don’t enter your matrimonial home perforated.

●That Virginity should not be just about the sexual organs. The eyes, hands, legs and mind should be virgins too. If these parts get corrupted with immorality, soon the genitals will confirm the corruption. Sexual purity matters.

●Females are not mere objects of sexual gratification. There is more to a woman than her breast and buttocks.

●Females are not mere objects of sexual gratification. There is more to a woman than her breast and buttocks.

●Not having a girlfriend does not make you less of a man. It makes you a man with a lot of control. It makes you a rare kind of a man in a world pervaded by immorality. It makes you a superman.

● Not having a boyfriend doesn’t mean you will run mad or something terrible will happen to you. These are traps the devil has used to destroy the destinies of many young people. It is a lie from the pit of hell. No one runs mad because of not having sex. Remain sexually pure. Purity Is Possible!!

●Sex is not one sure way to prove depth of love. If he truly loves you, he will marry you. If he is a real man why does he want the sex but not the responsibility of keeping you?

●Sex is not the solution to your Dysmenorrhea (Menstrual cramps), it is one of those deceits of boys who want to get into your pants! Be wise sweetheart.

● Sperm accumulation has no medical side effect. Your body is equipped to deal with that till you are ready to put them to good use. Don’t use that as a basis of going into fornication. Purity is Possible!!

●Masturbation is not a safe way to understand your sexuality. You will only end up teaching yourself how to please yourself not how someone else should please you. You get addicted to it so much that no one can please you as good as you. It becomes a psychological problem, and it is a sin before God. Don’t get indulge into that. Self control is key.

●Lesbianism is not an option for girls only because men are not looking your direction. It is filthy and a disgusting sin before God. As senseless as animals are, they do not get to such level of mental depravity to be lesbians, why humans? (Please talk to your girls especially about Lesbianism. It is becoming very common, starting as early as in primary schools.

●Homosexuality is not also an option for boys because they think marriage is costly. It is filthy and a disgusting sin before God. As senseless as animals are, they do not get to such level of mental depravity to be gays, why humans? (Please talk to your boys, especially about Homosexuality. It is becoming very common, starting as early as in primary schools.

●Let’s teach them that living a holy live is possible. If others can do, they can also do even better. Let’s make them understand that living for God doesn’t mean you will be the poorest person on earth, and even if that happens, they should be willing to suffer for God.

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Accepting someone new into your life requires an open mind and a generous spirit. No matter how compatible two people are, you and your future partner will have occasional petty grievances. They might do things that annoy you. You will have arguments.

Happiness in a relationship roughly equates to how willing you are to accept someone for who they are. If you deserve to be adored just the way you are, then be willing to do same to your partner!
Relationship, after all, is a byword for mutual openness, honesty and understanding.

Most people will not encourage you because you are not doing it their way or what they want you to.. Encouragement should come from inside or within and that’s what motivates great achievers.

When nobody else celebrate you, learn to celebrate yourself. When nobody else compliments you, then compliment yourself. It’s not up to other people to keep you encouraged. It’s up to you encourage yourself.

It’s time to distance yourself from the people who always let you down, the inconsistent ones. It’s time to start loving yourself. Time is like a river. You cannot touch the same water twice, because the flow that has passed will never pass again.

Enjoy every moment of your life and make good use of every opportunity in your life. Create the best out of your worse situation and always remember, good people add value to your life and not sorrow.

So many people do not understand the marriage covenant, they don’t understand the principles of God concerning marriage, they just want to get married because their friends are married. Some choose to get married because of the pressure from parents or society. Marriage is beautiful with God at the center point .”That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh” Genesis 2:24.

A wedding is an event. Marriage is the decision to leave your parents and unite with your spouse. Marriage is the only institution you get your certificate before fulfilling the principles involved. Marriage is for matured minds who understand they are going to be responsible for the success or failure of the marriage. The success of any marriage doesn’t depend on riches, beauty, career prospects, etc. It absolutely depends on the foundation. It is important you consider the following factors before going into that marriage, “Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding” Proverb 3:5.

1) Have you prayed about it? Don’t lean on your own understanding. There are things you may not see with natural eyes, only the Spirit of God can help you to see far “Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take” Proverb 3:6.

2) Can you submit to the mind or respect him as your husband? Will you love the woman like yourself, not comparing her with your ex-girlfriend or your colleague at work or expecting her to be perfect like your mum? “Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” Ephesian 5:22-25. Any man that doesn’t joke with his money while you are in courtship may end up leaving you with all the responsibilities of the home. Any man that can’t give from the little he has today can not give much when you marry him. If you truly love your spouse you will give your time, care, resources, commitment, etc.

3) What are you both covering up? Someone said love is blind but marriage will open it, I believe you should not overlook your shortcomings, some sisters have been experiencing violence from their partner before marriage, they will hide it and keep saying “he will change “, some men do not take their time to study the sister they married and they expect the woman to be an angel. We are not perfect but there must be a high level of conviction from both sides before marriage. Don’t marry out of pity. Don’t marry because of beauty, once a woman gets pregnant she may not be as beautiful as you met her. There must be genuine love and commitment, not just infatuation, material things, or lust that is driving your energy in that relationship “Can two walk together, except they are agreed? Amos 3:3.

4.Rate your Spirituality? Your relationship with God! You can’t have a perfect Christian marriage without a sound relationship with the almighty God. Spiritual commitment at home should not be left for women alone!!! It should not be pushed to men alone!!! It must be a joint effort for a successful marriage to take place.

You have to fast and pray together, you commit your home to the Hands of God during courtship, pray constantly, weekly, joint prayer is necessary, it may be through online or a meeting place. It is crucial you set a solid foundation for your marriage, when you pray, you are settling a solid rock and platform for a successful marriage. “Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house, yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation on the rock.” Matthew 7:24-25

5. Serve God to preserve your marriage. “Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows.” Galatian 6:7. You can not change a man after marriage, you are not God!!! Don’t expect those flaws you see in your spouse today to disappear suddenly after marriage, you have to be deliberate about choosing the right partner, you should both understand that serving God is a necessity. Don’t marry a woman that will take you back spiritually, “You must serve only the LORD your God. If you do, I will bless you with food and water, and I will protect you from illness, There will be no miscarriages or infertility in your land, and I will give you long, full lives”. When you are both committed to Kingdom services, God will take care of your needs and you will be fruitful.

The journey to unending marital bliss should start with you accepting Jesus Christ as your savior, you have to ask God for mercy. Ask Him to forgive your sins. Repent from all ungodliness and unrighteousness, God does not expect you to defile the bed of your marriage, HE doesn’t expect you to be committing fornication, He expects you to be holy “Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind” 1 Corinthians 6:9

May God help you to build a successful marriage in Jesus name 🙏🏼
Amen

(I will try to explain this an easy as i can)

One of the reasons why most marriages fail is because the individual involved lack the understanding of this concept.

One of the reasons why most of you that wish to be married but still single is because you lack an understanding of this concept.

One of the reasons why you shouldn’t near the door of marriage yet not to talk of entering it is still that you lack understanding in this area.

Finally Some of those sweet sweet marriages you see out there and you keep wishing and praying your marriage become as successful as theirs is because the man and the woman understand the concept of two people becoming one through their vows.

The concept of two becoming one. This is deeper than most of us understand. Apostle Paul called it a mystery in Ephesians 5:32.
If you and your partner take out time to learn and practice this concept, trust me on this one, your marriage will be heaven on earth.

This principle was first established in Genesis 2:24. Adam called Eve Bone of his bone, flesh of his flash because she brought out from him and through the marriage covenant she returns back to him and they became one again as they were before she was taken out of Him.

You need help from God to truly understand and practice this concept, even Jesus knew that not everyone will be willing to accept it and what comes with it so he even encouraged those who can not, to remain single. Matthew 19:5-12.

The principle of two becoming one eliminates words like ‘My’ and ‘I’ in marriage and introduces words like ‘Ours’ and ‘Us’.

There is nothing like my car, my money, my house, i this, i that.

What you should have is, our car, our money, our house, it’s no longer about Me but about Us.

I just need someone that really needs a heaven on earth kinda marriage to catch this. When you are one flesh, everything belonging to your partner automatically belongs to you. You got to move from the realm of My to Our. This is when you will start understanding this mystery.

Some of you still fight over irrelevant things because you are still in the realm of My this, My that.
Sister move. Uncle move.

Paul said
In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies. For a man who loves his wife actually shows love for himself. No one hates his own body but feeds and cares for it, just as Christ cares for the church
Ephesians 5:28‭-‬29NLT

So this means if i hurt my partner i am not just hurting her i am hurting us, if i cheat, i am not just cheating on him but cheating on us, if i hit her, i am hitting us. I am breaking the bond that binds us, i am breaking the oneness. I am directly putting asunder in what God has joined together.

This is deep. I just need someone to understand this.

This concept requires you to work as a team because you are united as one. At this point, your headship as the man is not about control but love and guidance. Ma you are blessed to be a support system, your position as a helpmeet doesn’t make you a slave but a great support system.

The concept of Oneness is about bringing out the best in your partner. Seeing to their growth and success and not pulling them down. You win as one. A win for your partner is a win for the family. A promotion for your partner is a promotion for the family.

A man or woman that pulls his/her partner down lacks this understanding and should remain single.

Are you surprised I asked you about your private part? Well, I have reason for asking you. Is it well with you there?Are you sick in your private part or you are okay there? You have two parts; which are :your public part & your private part. I am not really asking you about your genitals, but those areas of your life that are hidden from the public gaze& assessment. Your private part could be your relationship at home with your spouse that many of us don’t know about. Many are deacons in the Church but dragons at home. Many wives are ‘virtuous’ online, in the church or around the brethren but they are ‘virus’ women at home when dealing with their husbands at home.

Some are singers in the church but serpents at home. Some pastors are boxers at home as they preach unity, love, care in the church but box and beat their wives mercilessly in the bedroom, and because she will powder her face and use all the ‘foundations’ & the ‘roofing’ of cosmetics to cover up the bruises ,and lift up holy hands in Church to sing, no body will know that, the private part of the pastor’s marriage is decaying.

Your private part also speak of your secret dealings online and in your chats. You are married , but in your inbox, you lie to young ladies just to deceive them into relationship with you, thereby, denying your wife and children. Sir, your private part is rotten!

You are a pastor here, and you go to people’s inbox and prophecy false visions and dreams to scare them and you require that they must sow seed to your life before the dreams could be averted. Can’t you see this decay in your private part sir, is spreading all over ? Your private part also speaks of your prayer life. How is that your private part? We know you lead prayer powerfully in your fellowship and church, but can you tarry for 30 mins in prayer when nobody is looking at you ?

Your private part also speak of your thoughts life. We can’t see it ,, but I hope it is healthy? Those thoughts of immorality, masturbation, lust, anger, murder, revenge, plotting evil against others, stealing, etc. When thought like this dominate your heart, it shows your ‘private part’ is smelling and unhealthy. Some parade themselves as bold, rich , smart, wise etc but they are really not what they project here to the public when you meet them in their private life.

Just as people who have one issue or the other with their physical private parts (genitals) are doing everything possible to get rid of those ailment in their private parts, so we must be restless until our ‘private parts’ become healthy and whole. Don’t just pay attention to your public part, pay attention to your private part too. Men may applaud you for your bright and shinning public part, but God is much concern about the condition of your private part. Make sure you pursue health and wholesomeness in your private parts. To be totally whole and healthy before God and men, this is the way!

Thanks for reading.

My message for today, to be glorified you should be crucified too.

Dear waiting singles, manipulation is real, don’t fall for it.

One thing that i have discovered recently is that when God has great plans for your life, the devil is also not sleeping. You need to be very careful, patient, and prayerful to avoid becoming its victim.

Manipulation is the process of planning out usually with subtle skill, deceit or care so that your choice of who to marry is influenced by the manipulator, to their own advantage.

A manipulator would influence you emotionally to do their bidding. They will tell you, “Marry this person,” or “This is the person I want you to marry,” please be careful.

The devil also manipulates through the agency of his representatives disguised as men or women of God, or some spiritual fathers or mothers, or counselors.

Be careful of making anyone an assistant to God in your life.

How Can You Escape Being A Victim Of Manipulation?

1. Be Spiritually Sensitive: Becoming spiritually alert is not by going to church or praying once in a while, it is by having a functional prayer altar, and becoming so addicted to the word of God that you study and meditate in it as commanded.

You will fall into satanic manipulation when you make marital decision during the prayerless season of your life.

If the iron be blunt, then you do well to sharpen it. If your spirit man can’t clearly discern God’s voice above the storms of passion, and the murmurs of self-will, it’s advisable to sharpen up your inner man.

Take time to develop your prayer life, pray always and don’t faint. Spend quality time with God, not just when you need Him urgently.

2. Don’t Let Anyone Influence Your Choice On Whom To Marry:

Whether good decision or bad is what you ended up making, you will face the consequence. Don’t let anyone influence you on who to marry.

You might be told she has money, he’s working in a bank, he or she is romantic, he’s nice, she’s humble, and so on; until you clearly hear God, don’t make any move.

Be it a man of God, prophet or seer, let no one be the final influence on who you marry, else you’d discover later in marriage that you have married the wrong person.

It’s better to be very slow and get it right than to hurriedly make decisions, and regret it afterwards.

3. Don’t Get So Involved With Anyone That You Would Swallow Everything They Tell You, Hook, Line, And Sinker Without Vetting It: Similarly to point 2, don’t make anyone in your life infallible, the only person that can’t make error is God.

Do you know that some men or women of God are not in their best state spiritually to guide you?

A man of God is first a man before the grace of God comes upon his life.

No marriage counselor or relationship coach knows it all or understand God’s will for you.

The crux of this matter is to never make anyone an idol in your life that you worship or treasure their counsel above that of God and His word.

4. Never Be In Haste Or Under Pressure To Get Married
   One of the greatest strategies that
   make singles manipulated is when they see themselves as getting old or late to be married.

If it would cost you more than a month to propose or accept a proposal, while prayerfully seeking His face for direction, please do, and take your time.

A genuine brother won’t hurry you to accept his proposal, and a sincere sister won’t delay your proposal for ages.

5. Invoke The Mercy Of God
   I have come to believe that those who marry right do not do so, because they can pray or fast very well, it’s a token of God’s mercy.

Let God take away His mercy, they’ll miss it just as a person misses his or her last opportunity in life.

Inasmuch as you would pray, don’t fail to invoke His mercy so that when every other things seems to be right or perfect, His mercy would prevail and you would see clearly.

Dear, manipulation is real. One major reasons why serious and firebrand brothers and sisters misses it in their choice of who to marry is because they became a victim of satanic deception and manipulation.

Deception and manipulation goes side by side, and Satan is often the instigator. He provoked David, and made him to number the children of Israel. Subtly, the old prophet deceived the young prophet while thinking it was the will of God for him to do his bidding.

Don’t make any decision when you are confused or uncertain. Let no one rush you!

Do not forget that the angel of darkness also transforms as an angel of light to deceive the saints. Prayerfully test all spirits.

Test all “God says,” vet all dreams and revelations prayerfully and with time. If you don’t understand your dreams or vision, spend time with the Holy Spirit to guide you through its understanding.

Not all men or women of God have the spiritual intelligence to accurately interpret your revelations.

I don’t know what you take a wife for. I don’t know the basis of the comparison. I tried to understand the reasons and I couldn’t.

My brother, let me help you. Your wife gets pregnant. Go to the labour ward and you will see that many Women don’t survive. Her body nomenclature changed because she is having children for you. She starts grooming a life after delivery untill the baby sits, talks, walks and start feeding himself.
Another is in her stomach growing. She cooks, washes and thinks about the welfare of her husband and Children. She fasts and prays for you. She denies herself some frivolities because she is planning for the family. She passes sleepless nights watching over your babies. She engages in the most tasking job of the family. She drops and picks up your children. She hardly have time to rest.
Some of us hardly give them upkeep allowance. Neither do we buy clothes for them. Some used the clothes they bought as singles because they’re trying to cope with you. They desire your growth. HER LOOK IS A FUNCTION OF YOUR CARE.

Instead of getting a domestic assistant for her to ease her job, you give the money to a side chick. Drink and club with the rest. She is subjected to a whole lot of pressure on daily basis.
You hardly return home and bathe your children let alone feed them. You fix your eyes on the phone or television when you get home. She drops the crying baby upon sighting you to serve you meal. She hardly had time to even Visit a saloon. She uses bands to hold her hair. Always wearing smiling face not to affect her children.

You ask for sex and she gives you and yet she don’t bother how she Copes daily. You will take your side chick to an Eatery, bar and joints. She is never taken out. The only outing is going to church if you will attend with her

She washes and manages her clothes and covers your shame before her people. She defends you before the children.

Amidst these…. You share bills with her. If she complaints, you call her a liability. She works in this state and you don’t appreciate her.

The reward you will give her is comparing her with a strange woman? You compare her with a whore that all she thinks of is sexual styles.
All she thinks of is how to seduce men. All she desires is getting you to pay her bills. All she graves for is to drain you.
Her savings are on clothing, and jewelries.

She has never given birth neither has she ever passed sleepless nights nurturing a life. She has never felt the pain of Child bearing neither has blood flowed down her body for weeks after child bearing.
It is painful to say the least.

THE WORST YOU CAN GIVE YOUR WIFE IS TO COMPARE HER WITH A STRANGE WOMAN.
TO EVERY MOTHER AND WIFE THERE. BE STRONG AND COURAGEOUS. IF HE DOESN’T APPRECIATE YOUR SACRIFICES. GOD DOES.
NO MAN CAN COMPARE HIS SOULMATE WITH A STRANGE WOMAN. HE IS NOT MAN ENOUGH.
IGNORE ANY COMPARISON. INFACT, WIVES CAN’T BE COMPARED WITH SIDE CHICKS.

Have you started making attempts at developing yourself to accomplish those goals?. Dr. Myles Munroe once said, you need to be so busy about your assignment to the point that God will have to interrupt you, before you even realise that you need a wife. How busy are you , with respect to the assignment that you are spending all your time looking for a wife?

It’s unfortunate that today you find guys who mostly leisure around almost every now and then, doing nothing, and yet busily looking for a wife to help them to do nothing.🤔
Unfortunately, some young women also think that’s once their breast are up, and they have some hips, they are very prepared to marry. And as such they do not prepare themselves adequately in important areas such as developing their relationship with God, developing character, submission to Christ, etc. That’s why most women today cannot submit to their husbands as the church submits to Christ; as such there is leadership battle in many homes today.

Dear young woman, how prepared are you to be of help to that man you want to marry in fulfilling God’s assignment for your lives. You said you love him ,no problem oooo, but have you asked him his vision for life? Have you ask him where he’s going? Do you see yourself involved in the kind of thing he wants to do? if yes, then you are on the right path because every wife finds her assignment in the man’s assignments

. If No, then please move slowly and reflect over these matters.
Solomon gave several reasons that companionship is good. Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 says: Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work: If one falls down, his friend can help him up.

But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up! Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.

When relationship Ends, Life Goes On. YOU DESERVE BETTER No matter how bad it hurts or how bad you feel, it’s time to stop thinking about that person who played with your feelings, who took your love for granted, who never appreciated your care, who wasn’t contented with what you could give him or her.
You can’t stay at that hurtful place anymore. You can’t keep shedding tears over someone who doesn’t deserve the love you gave. You can’t keep feeling sorry for yourself and thinking if only you did more. You can’t make them want the relationship because if they wanted they wouldn’t have let go of you. You deserve better now.
You deserve someone who appreciates all the good qualities that you offer. You deserve someone who won’t play with your delicate heart, you deserve someone who won’t be all about knowing your body, you deserve someone who will be so serious with you and who will be with the fear of hurting you and losing you.
Just like a cut on your hand will take time to heal, your broken heart needs time to heal as well. Many people before you, who thought they couldn’t make it, have survived and made it. Just like they made it, you will make it too.
Be strong and try to move on now. That’snot the end of your life. You will get over that pain you’re having right now and one day you’ll be happy again. Take courage and trust the living And caring God for His provisions.