So many people do not understand the marriage covenant, they don’t understand the principles of God concerning marriage, they just want to get married because their friends are married. Some choose to get married because of the pressure from parents or society. Marriage is beautiful with God at the center point .”That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh” Genesis 2:24.
A wedding is an event. Marriage is the decision to leave your parents and unite with your spouse. Marriage is the only institution you get your certificate before fulfilling the principles involved. Marriage is for matured minds who understand they are going to be responsible for the success or failure of the marriage. The success of any marriage doesn’t depend on riches, beauty, career prospects, etc. It absolutely depends on the foundation. It is important you consider the following factors before going into that marriage, “Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding” Proverb 3:5.
1) Have you prayed about it? Don’t lean on your own understanding. There are things you may not see with natural eyes, only the Spirit of God can help you to see far “Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take” Proverb 3:6.
2) Can you submit to the mind or respect him as your husband? Will you love the woman like yourself, not comparing her with your ex-girlfriend or your colleague at work or expecting her to be perfect like your mum? “Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” Ephesian 5:22-25. Any man that doesn’t joke with his money while you are in courtship may end up leaving you with all the responsibilities of the home. Any man that can’t give from the little he has today can not give much when you marry him. If you truly love your spouse you will give your time, care, resources, commitment, etc.
3) What are you both covering up? Someone said love is blind but marriage will open it, I believe you should not overlook your shortcomings, some sisters have been experiencing violence from their partner before marriage, they will hide it and keep saying “he will change “, some men do not take their time to study the sister they married and they expect the woman to be an angel. We are not perfect but there must be a high level of conviction from both sides before marriage. Don’t marry out of pity. Don’t marry because of beauty, once a woman gets pregnant she may not be as beautiful as you met her. There must be genuine love and commitment, not just infatuation, material things, or lust that is driving your energy in that relationship “Can two walk together, except they are agreed? Amos 3:3.
4.Rate your Spirituality? Your relationship with God! You can’t have a perfect Christian marriage without a sound relationship with the almighty God. Spiritual commitment at home should not be left for women alone!!! It should not be pushed to men alone!!! It must be a joint effort for a successful marriage to take place.
You have to fast and pray together, you commit your home to the Hands of God during courtship, pray constantly, weekly, joint prayer is necessary, it may be through online or a meeting place. It is crucial you set a solid foundation for your marriage, when you pray, you are settling a solid rock and platform for a successful marriage. “Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house, yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation on the rock.” Matthew 7:24-25
- Serve God to preserve your marriage. “Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows.” Galatian 6:7. You can not change a man after marriage, you are not God!!! Don’t expect those flaws you see in your spouse today to disappear suddenly after marriage, you have to be deliberate about choosing the right partner, you should both understand that serving God is a necessity. Don’t marry a woman that will take you back spiritually, “You must serve only the LORD your God. If you do, I will bless you with food and water, and I will protect you from illness, There will be no miscarriages or infertility in your land, and I will give you long, full lives”. When you are both committed to Kingdom services, God will take care of your needs and you will be fruitful.
The journey to unending marital bliss should start with you accepting Jesus Christ as your savior, you have to ask God for mercy. Ask Him to forgive your sins. Repent from all ungodliness and unrighteousness, God does not expect you to defile the bed of your marriage, HE doesn’t expect you to be committing fornication, He expects you to be holy “Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind” 1 Corinthians 6:9
May God help you to build a successful marriage in Jesus name 🙏🏼
Amen
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